Mouth soaping in Christian Domestic Discipline
The bible gives repeated, clear warnings about the destruction that our words can bring. We are warned against corrupting talk, vulgarity, deceitfulness, gossip, disrespect, and quarrelsomeness. Given how much damage words can cause, it is no surprise that many Christian Domestic Discipline husbands set rules against profanity, lying, disrespect, and other related offenses. A common punishment for breaking these rules is mouth soaping – a punishment that truly fits the crime.
Many brands of soap can cause irritation and intestinal discomfort. You should only use soap that is fragrance free and nontoxic. When delivering this punishment, take precaution to make sure that the soap isn’t swallowed.
While there are quite a few approaches you can use, we’ve found the following two options to be the easiest and most effective.
Bar method (for bar soap)
Get a new bar of soap damp but not overly wet. Instruct your wife to open her mouth. Use the bar of soap to apply a coating of soap to her tongue, lips, and front of her mouth. Lightly grind the bar of soap against her front teeth. Place the bar of soap about halfway into her mouth, instruct her to bite down, and remain still for a period of time ranging from 1 to 5 minutes. Ensure that she is angling her head forward so that any soap runoff goes out her mouth, not down her throat. When the time has elapsed, remove the bar of soap. You may choose to then move on to another punishment like spanking or cornertime, or you may allow her to rinse and spit.
Washcloth method (for liquid soap)
Dampen a clean washcloth and apply one or two pumps of liquid soap. Work into a lather. Instruct your wife to open her mouth. Thoroughly wash her tongue, lips, and the front of her mouth. Place the washcloth partially in her mouth, and instruct her to bite down, and remain still for a period of time ranging from 1 to 5 minutes. Ensure that she is angling her head forward so that any soap runoff goes out her mouth, not down her throat. When the time has elapsed, remove the washcloth. You may choose to then move on to another punishment like spanking or cornertime, or you may allow her to rinse and spit.
DIY mouth soaping
Mouth soaping is a punishment that can be administered even when you and your wife are not in the same location. The punishment can be self administered, with proof that it was carried out provided via video or photo, or even live via Facetime or Skype. This is a handy way to deal with an issue when you might be traveling or otherwise away from home. Instruct your wife to follow the instructions above for the bar soap method, and to provide proof of punishment per your specifications.
Sour or Hot
Instead of soap, you may choose to use a drop of hot sauce, a lemon wedge, bitter candy, or other unpleasant but edible substance. The technique is very similar – have your wife hold the unpleasant food in her mouth for a period of time to drive the lesson home.